Autism: Loads and Burdens

22 Dec

This sadness has been overwhelming me.

  • Does God want me?
  • Am I saved?
  • Why do I fail at everything?
  • Why am I so bad (why do I struggle with things other people don’t seem to?)
  • Will I ever do good (will anything I do have a positive impact on the world around me?)
  • Does anyone want me (will I ever feel like I belong anywhere?)

I think that maybe Christmas is a difficult time for me. Anyway, it has been hard this year, and I am feeling overwhelmed and shutting down, even though I haven’t done anything for it yet.

Time is speeding up, or I am slowing down, or… How did Christmas come again so fast? I am not at all ready, and I look at the decorations as if… as if people put them up in May or something, and it all feels so wrong.

Time is speeding up for me. I go to start something, learn something, research something, and suddenly the day is over though I have done nothing. It is very frustrating. Is it any wonder I wish this life allowed magic, or cheat codes to get through? I don’t expect to win any awards, or accomplish any great thing anyway, but I could sure use some help to get through the day and take care of what I have without being so overwhelmed all of the time, but then…

Loads and burdens.

My pastor talks frequently about loads and burdens – how some people have heavy burdens they won’t share with other people for fear of asking too much of people, and other people ask for help with loads that they should learn to carry themselves.

I have a lot of burdens, this is true. And sometimes I ask for help with them, but mostly I don’t. Other people don’t understand, and can’t seem to help much anyway.

But then I guess what I struggle most with – day to day living – people would consider loads. I know they are… loads, that is. I should be able to handle them. Other people do. Other people are able to do all I struggle with and so much more. I should be able – but I am not.

Loads and burdens.

I ask too much.

Having said all of that, I am struggling these days. I have been writing this blog for nearly 2.5 years – longer than I have ever kept going at any type of work in my life, without a break. But I have also been pushing myself really hard to keep going these past 7 or 8 months or so.

I need a break.

So in light of Christmas coming (and despite how hard this is for me to admit even to myself) I have decided to take some time off from writing my blog, and think that Christmas is probably the time I need to do that.

I am hoping that a month will be enough, and plan to start writing again in mid-January.

Until then I want to wish all of you a Merry Christmas, and a Happy New Year, and to thank all of you for your support over these years.



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3 responses to “Autism: Loads and Burdens

  1. yarnandpencil

    December 22, 2017 at 1:20 pm

    Wishing you a happy and blessed Christmas my friend.
    God loves you right now for who you are right now. You don’t have to be perfect for him, you don’t have to be able to cope with everyday life for him. He wants you as you are right this minute. God will do the good work in you and through you.
    I will pray for you. If you want or need to you can write to me via the contact page on my blog. I may not have words to comfort but I can listen.
    Take care ❤ and I hope to welcome you back when you are ready.
    Tracey xxx

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  2. Behind the Glass

    May 7, 2018 at 11:08 am

    I know this post is a few months old but I just wanted to say that those questions you were asking yourself at the beginning of this post are ones that I ask myself a lot and have asked myself all my life. More so recently, as I have been going through a rough time.

    I was talking to someone close to me yesterday that was wanting me to reach out – concerned that I don’t and hadn’t a few days ago when I really went down the tubes. It was hard for me to explain why I don’t. It’s because these are the same struggles I’ve had for so long, no one’s suggestions ever help and when you’re in the dumps it’s hard to even think straight and think to ask for help, especially if it’s hard to share and put things into words face-to-face. I always have the fear of being judged or having people trying to convince me of things I don’t / can’t internalize. It’s easy for them to say but obviously not easy for me to believe after all these years. I just don’t see things the same way they do. 🙂


    • Walkinfaith925

      May 7, 2018 at 3:27 pm

      I am sorry that you are having such a hard time right now. As you can read in my posts, I can certainly relate. My prayer for you is that God will pull you up out of the darkness and surround you with people of light. I don’t know if you are Christian (if those were some of the questions you have been struggling with, I should post the answer that I received as they really helped me) but may I point you to a song? It is called “Beautiful” by Mercy Me, and is one that really reaches me when I am struggling with self worth.



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